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Instead of Loving Ourselves Why Do We Hate Ourselves?
I think it's just because of our mindset. We want to achieve each and everything whatever we love. We don't want to lose ( which is impractical ). We expect too much from ourselves, we often forget that we are human beings and we may fail, just like someone else. So, due to having so high expectations, we often get depressed when we cannot fulfill our own dreams. This causes self- hatred, we start disbelieving ourselves. In the process, we start a growing negative mindset, lose self-confidence, lose health, mental peace, and destroy ourselves. And then ask the question on social media "why do we hate ourselves?" Those who have a strong mindset, they do fight back even after multiple failures, and they are the ones who succeed who keep pushing it continuously and finally achieves his/her goal.
So, instead of having small targets, we must have long-term goals. I feel, if we aim at that, then there will be no frequent dissatisfaction.
"Do What You Love" - Is Not Always Easy
People say "do what you love" it's very easy to say that. But if you observe and analyze the current market situation and economic conditions of many countries, people don't get that opportunity to do what exactly they want to do. There are a variety of circumstances, situations when someone is forced to get involved in such things that they don't want to do. It's true that, if you keep doing the thing which you don't like at all, it will start frustrating you after a while. Your profession will become a burden to you. But you have no choice, you need to keep continuing, or else you won't survive. Now, this causes dissatisfaction. That is why I have mentioned earlier here, that all of us must have a long-term goal which we must nurture always and keep focusing on it irrespective of the task we are involved at this moment.
How Can "Having A Long-Term Goal" Bring Happiness?
As we discussed just now that it is not always possible for everyone dedicated to something which they like in all circumstances. But, they can still possess their future goal in their mind and keep working on it. It doesn't matter if you are not able to crack it right away- but nobody will stop you from dreaming about it. If you really have a fixed goal in life which you want to achieve someday, if you stay focused, ne determined, and aiming at it, then no force or no circumstances will be able to stop you from achieving that. And this belief (self-belief) will keep you happy, satisfied, and accomplished even when you are involved in something which you dislike. That is the method for staying happy even in the worst conditions. This is how we must start loving ourselves.
